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 24 February 2006, 09:07 AM |  | Senior Member | | Join Date: November 2005 Location: gw tinggal di AMQ Posts: 631 Rep Power: 3 | |  Curhat Yuk..!!!!
buat temen2 yg lagi punya masalah, di-share aja di sini, sapa tau ada ide2 cemerlang dari member sctv yg lain buat mecahin masalahnya, truss bs diambil alternatif keputusan yg paling tepat.OK 
masalah jangan dipendem sendiri, ntar bs atit loh..dg berbagi masalah kita akan merasa plong dg sendirinya.ya g..???? | 24 February 2006, 09:10 AM |  | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | |
apple judulnya curhat......share aja deh | 24 February 2006, 09:15 AM |  | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: Pontianak Posts: 4,853 Rep Power: 8 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by appledream buat temen2 yg lagi punya masalah, di-share aja di sini, sapa tau ada ide2 cemerlang dari member sctv yg lain buat mecahin masalahnya, truss bs diambil alternatif keputusan yg paling tepat.OK
masalah jangan dipendem sendiri, ntar bs atit loh..dg berbagi masalah kita akan merasa plong dg sendirinya.ya g..???? | Saya curhat soal duit. Tanpa ba bi bu lagi. Mungkin saya yang pertama curhat. To the point aja ya. Setelah saya menikah Desember 2005 lalu, duit saya habis semua. Tabungan habis, celengan habis dan ada hutang sana sini. Sejauh ini hutang saya masih dibawah normal. Artinya masih mampu melakukan pembayaran dengan cara potong gaji. Tapi sudah mulai kerasa berat dari sekarang. Apakah saya harus cari tambahan (penghasilan) di luar?. Tentu itu sudah masuk dalam agenda. Tapi yang sekarang mendesak adalah penyelesaian hutang saya ini. Sekarang sih masih lobang tutup lobang. Itu curhat saya. __________________  "kebahagiaan terbesar dalam hidup kita adalah jika kita dapat memberikan perhatian kepada orang yang kita cintai " - R.A. Kartini | 24 February 2006, 09:17 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: November 2005 Location: gw tinggal di AMQ Posts: 631 Rep Power: 3 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by batavianlady apple judulnya curhat......share aja deh | yaaaa.. udah telanjur dibikin.. .ya udah dech...share aja .!!!!sekarang title nya diganti dg Lets Share. OK...!!!! | 24 February 2006, 09:34 AM |  | Senior Member | | Join Date: January 2006 Posts: 7,811 Rep Power: 10 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by borneo Saya curhat soal duit. Tanpa ba bi bu lagi. Mungkin saya yang pertama curhat. To the point aja ya. Setelah saya menikah Desember 2005 lalu, duit saya habis semua. Tabungan habis, celengan habis dan ada hutang sana sini.
Sejauh ini hutang saya masih dibawah normal. Artinya masih mampu melakukan pembayaran dengan cara potong gaji. Tapi sudah mulai kerasa berat dari sekarang. Apakah saya harus cari tambahan (penghasilan) di luar?. Tentu itu sudah masuk dalam agenda.
Tapi yang sekarang mendesak adalah penyelesaian hutang saya ini. Sekarang sih masih lobang tutup lobang. Itu curhat saya. | Itu masalah klasik orang yang baru married  Emang istri om bornie gak kerja???????? Aku aja SK Pegawai udah disekolahin ngambil S1 di bank  Jadi WELCOME TO THE CLUB bro  | 24 February 2006, 09:39 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by appledream yaaaa.. udah telanjur dibikin...ya udah dech...share aja .!!!!sekarang title nya diganti dg Lets Share. OK...!!!! | kamu tuh perhatian bener si ma aq , apple...? kalo aq cowo dah nikahin km ..janji gak akan polygami... | 24 February 2006, 09:40 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: November 2005 Location: gw tinggal di AMQ Posts: 631 Rep Power: 3 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by borneo Saya curhat soal duit. Tanpa ba bi bu lagi. Mungkin saya yang pertama curhat. To the point aja ya. Setelah saya menikah Desember 2005 lalu, duit saya habis semua. Tabungan habis, celengan habis dan ada hutang sana sini.
Sejauh ini hutang saya masih dibawah normal. Artinya masih mampu melakukan pembayaran dengan cara potong gaji. Tapi sudah mulai kerasa berat dari sekarang. Apakah saya harus cari tambahan (penghasilan) di luar?. Tentu itu sudah masuk dalam agenda.
Tapi yang sekarang mendesak adalah penyelesaian hutang saya ini. Sekarang sih masih lobang tutup lobang. Itu curhat saya. | Mengenai cari tambahan di luar, kenapa nggak?? btw, Istrinya om kerja g? klo misalnya g kerja lumayan khan bs bantuin oom buat nambah penghasilan. Berdagang adl cara cepat utk melipatgandakan penghasilan di luar.dg modal seadanya dapet profit lumayan. dagang kecil2an aja dulu jgn langsung gede. Klo om bornie g sempat karna ngantor..pasti istinya bisa dunk..toh demi keluarga juga..!!!
Mengenai masalah utang semuanya bs ditanggulangi pabila om bornie sdh berhasil dg point 1 (dagang).
Jangan maen potong gaji dulu om buat bayar utang, biargan separuh dari gaji disisipkan buat modal.
Dipertimbangkan aja dulu om saran saya..
mungkin ada masukan dari rekan2 yg lain..?? disilahkan!!!  | 24 February 2006, 10:18 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by borneo Saya curhat soal duit. Tanpa ba bi bu lagi. Mungkin saya yang pertama curhat. To the point aja ya. Setelah saya menikah Desember 2005 lalu, duit saya habis semua. Tabungan habis, celengan habis dan ada hutang sana sini.
Sejauh ini hutang saya masih dibawah normal. Artinya masih mampu melakukan pembayaran dengan cara potong gaji. Tapi sudah mulai kerasa berat dari sekarang. Apakah saya harus cari tambahan (penghasilan) di luar?. Tentu itu sudah masuk dalam agenda.
Tapi yang sekarang mendesak adalah penyelesaian hutang saya ini. Sekarang sih masih lobang tutup lobang. Itu curhat saya. | baguslah ada temen curhat... Harap yg jawab dgn bhs inggris, ya....krn yg bersangkutan gak ngerti bhs indo. Aq rada galau nih...my hubby shock...shock berat...i'm not sure yet what should i do..i feel there is something i should change... i m going to divorce my hubby...soon or later...he' s quiet jealous of my men-friend..i like glamority a lot..i like being quietly wt man..but he's too busy..and now..there's someone come offer love to me.....the worse..i like this man...Oh lord what i supposed to do? | 24 February 2006, 10:44 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: November 2005 Location: gw tinggal di AMQ Posts: 631 Rep Power: 3 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by batavianlady baguslah ada temen curhat...
Harap yg jawab dgn bhs inggris, ya....krn yg bersangkutan gak ngerti bhs indo.
Aq rada galau nih...my hubby shock...shock berat...i'm not sure yet what should i do..i feel there is something i should change...
i m going to divorce my hubby...soon or later...he' s quiet jealous of my men-friend..i like glamority a lot..i like being quietly wt man..but he's too busy..and now..there's someone come offer love to me.....the worse..i like this man...Oh lord what i supposed to do? | my betleidi..u must remember bout ur child. its 2 hard 4 her/him 2 face da world wit this situation. U dont have 2 divorce ur hubby just with this simple thing..i mean just coz of his bussy work. please try 2 understand..he do dat job just 4 his family include u n ur child. get it.
about da other man..please...leave him soon. u have a different life now. he (i mean dat man) isnt polite man coz he already known dat u have been married..
so..y he must bother u family..? get dat man off of ur life.
back 2 ur hubby, discuss bout ur feeling with ur hubby, i believe dat he 'll change.
try 2 get Sholat 4 His Blessed coz i think now u have been stand on da wrong side.
itu sech menurut apple, klo menurut temen2 yg lain bagaimana?? disilahkan!! | 24 February 2006, 11:06 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by appledream my betleidi..u must remember bout ur child. its 2 hard 4 her/him 2 face da world wit this situation. U dont have 2 divorce ur hubby just with this simple thing..i mean just coz of his bussy work. please try 2 understand..he do dat job just 4 his family include u n ur child. get it.
about da other man..please...leave him soon. u have a different life now. he (i mean dat man) isnt polite man coz he already known dat u have been married..
so..y he must bother u family..? get dat man off of ur life.
back 2 ur hubby, discuss bout ur feeling with ur hubby, i believe dat he 'll change.
try 2 get Sholat 4 His Blessed coz i think now u have been stand on da wrong side.
itu sech menurut apple, klo menurut temen2 yg lain bagaimana?? disilahkan!! | ..n0..apple..!' m quiet hard for th3s3...i d0nt ch4ng3 my m!nd...if i could divrc him d0esnt coz that man...i just need more space for new adventure. ..! love that w4y... i divrc him wt peace..in fact just need pay his attenti0n t0 me...i f33d up of l0n3lyn3zz..i m quiet busy t0o..but doesnt meant 1 d0nt n33d a man-t0uch... th3s3 only my pl4nn1ng..th3 m0st d1ff1cult 1s h3 reffus3d to dvrc....even made longger 4nd expenss1v3 f0r th3 c0st to de lawyer.... de lawyer here kinda late working for d1vorc3 wh4t u th1nk? | 24 February 2006, 11:26 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: November 2005 Location: gw tinggal di AMQ Posts: 631 Rep Power: 3 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by batavianlady ..n0..apple..!' m quiet hard for th3s3...i d0nt ch4ng3 my m!nd...if i could divrc him d0esnt coz that man...i just need more space for new adventure. ..! love that w4y...
i divrc him wt peace..in fact just need pay his attenti0n t0 me...i f33d up of l0n3lyn3zz..i m quiet busy t0o..but doesnt meant 1 d0nt n33d a man-t0uch...
th3s3 only my pl4nn1ng..th3 m0st d1ff1cult 1s h3 reffus3d to dvrc....even made longger 4nd expenss1v3 f0r th3 c0st to de lawyer....
de lawyer here kinda late working for d1vorc3
wh4t u th1nk? | oh..my betleidi..u m4d3 d4t pl4nn!ng just 4 get a n3w 4dv3ntur3..???? Oh My God.
i know bout 8. u ryt bout u n33d a m4n-t0uch.. but u c4n talk th!s c4s3 wit ur hubby...isnt 8?
pl3as3..u dont h4v3 2 think b0ut urs3lf only? pl!s think b0ut ur f4mily. th3y n33d u. Im gl4d d4t ur hubby r3ffus3d 2 dvrc. 8s m3an d4t h3 still loving u.U hav3 2 r3sp3ct 8. think b0ut all of hiskindness 4 all da time since both of u m4rri3d tiil now. think bout all da good things dat u h4ve been made wit him. n think b0ut ur child. stop 4 looking a n3w adventure f u must scrf ur family. u c4n find sum adv3ntur3 d4t u think will give u a benefit...but dont even think by" dat pl4nning" ( u know wad i mean)!!!! | 24 February 2006, 11:35 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by appledream oh..my betleidi..u m4d3 d4t pl4nn!ng just 4 get a n3w 4dv3ntur3..???? Oh My God.
i know bout 8. u ryt bout u n33d a m4n-t0uch.. but u c4n talk th!s c4s3 wit ur hubby...isnt 8?
pl3as3..u dont h4v3 2 think b0ut urs3lf only? pl!s think b0ut ur f4mily. th3y n33d u. Im gl4d d4t ur hubby r3ffus3d 2 dvrc. 8s m3an d4t h3 still loving u.U hav3 2 r3sp3ct 8. think b0ut all of hiskindness 4 all da time since both of u m4rri3d tiil now. think bout all da good things dat u h4ve been made wit him. n think b0ut ur child. stop 4 looking a n3w adventure f u must scrf ur family. u c4n find sum adv3ntur3 d4t u think will give u a benefit...but dont even think by" dat pl4nning" ( u know wad i mean)!!!! | i'm pretty sur3 u d1dnt g3t wh4t 1 meant, sw3aty...i'm 3xhaussted now...4 l0t of 0f th1nk u d1dnt kn0w...l3ts w3 disscus3 it lat3r on... now i want to breath.... i just need support...nothin else.. | 24 February 2006, 11:53 AM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: November 2005 Location: gw tinggal di AMQ Posts: 631 Rep Power: 3 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by batavianlady i'm pretty sur3 u d1dnt g3t wh4t 1 meant, sw3aty...i'm 3xhaussted now...4 l0t of 0f th1nk u d1dnt kn0w...l3ts w3 disscus3 it lat3r on...
now i want to breath....
i just need support...nothin else.. | my b3tleidi..i know w4d do u m3ant...!! but i just c4nt giving supp0rt in th!s c4s3. coz i just w4nn4 u 2 g3t c4lm down nd think with 4ll of ur he4rt 2 m4ke 8 mor3 cl3arly wit p3ac3. pliss think b0ut d4 futur3 of ur child. pl!ss dont think another things. find oth3r w4y which more wise 2 g3t out of ur 3xh4ussted...
mungkin ada masukan yg lain dari temen2....silahkan..!!! | 24 February 2006, 07:30 PM |  | Senior Member | | Join Date: March 2005 Location: Norwich - UK Posts: 1,122 Rep Power: 5 | |
TO BATLAD : ck...ck....ck...ck.............. This thread finally can tickle my fingers. Well...miss rose - batlad, is this problem genuiene of yours oryou just make it up?? no offence because foreign ppl are common with something called "privacy", most of them doesn't like to discuss about their personal problem in public. But wether genuine or not i'd like to give comment, because this is what you want rite? you need an opinion from ppl. Divorce is a choice, divorce is not something that God made. Human have a choice to make their own destiny, i believed. We have somethin in common actually, our husband are both work abroad, they are very offten left us alone at home with our daughter. Before i speak to far away...May i ask you what was the reason you were married? was it because you loved him, can't live without him - or because you were run away from a problem and you thought by marrying this guy will solve the problem. * If your answer is that because you loved him and you can't lived without him, than why do you want a divorce? If he work over seas a lot, that is because he want to fullfill your need, your glamourity need, he want his family happy, and that is the only job that he can get (and can give him very good salary). Because living in abig city such PARIS is not cheap, specially you & famliy lived in a specious apartment, And your husband need a lot of cash to pay the morgates, and maybe need 20 years to finish off the morgates. Do you ever spoke to him about your feeling? In my case me and my hubby have spoken about this before, we've had a big argument, that once made me want to walk out of the house. But before i managed to run away, he already on the way home (in the middle of a very important meeting with a customer). He said to me if there is anything i want to say, he'll be please to hear it, i f i want to shouting at him, he'll be please to accept it. Ohhh yeahhh...i did everything i could, i shouthed @ him , i yelled @ him, and i cried. It works........i feel relieved, if told him everything that i've been kept all this time in my head. He said, he doesn't like his job either, he hate his job as much as i hate being apart from him. But with this job he can feed his family, give his family a decent life. He said again i have to understand that, but if i want him to quick from his job he will do it, but there is consequences of that, we have to move to a smaller house, we can't have holiday every year, we can't put our daughter in private nursery (public nursery is further away from our house), i can't turn the heater @ home all day long (which is meant we have to wearing 3 wooly jumper, 2 layers of socks..etc..etc), we can't have a satelite channel, and i have to walk to the bus station to go shopping, to take our daughter to nursery/school. Ukkkhhhh...........i can't do that. Hey......rose - batlad, why dont you go with your hubby if he have to leave you for over a month, thats what my hubby always do, if he have to leave over a month he always took us, because he also can't live without me that long . * If the answer is because u were run away from a problem & you thought by marrying this guy will solve the problem, well now you know - that you were wrong. If you thing you and him can't go along together ever again, JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART. That is not fun if you have to live in lie and suffer because of that. You deserve a happines in your life. You are a beautiful woman and fun as well, if there is a guy who can give you what you want GO FOR IT. But remember, don't make a same mistake, and you have to prepare your self, if this CHARMING PRINCE is not as perfect as you were imagined. NO BODY PERFECT LOVE, Don't be surprise if you will find another problem (not the same problem though - but still we call it problem). Your daughter now still very young, she wouldn't know the different, she know nothing. She wouldn't care who her biological father is (for now...) as long as her new father loved her very much, just like her own daughter. SO...THE CHOICE IS ON YOUR HAND. IF YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU....MAYBE HE LOVE YOU VERY MUCH, AND WANT TO WORK THIS OUT TOGHETHER??? SPEAK TO HIM...FIND THE SOLUTION...GOOD LUCK __________________
you can tell more about a person by what he says about others, than you can by what others say about him ~Make happy those who are near, and those who are far will come
Last edited by kristina; 27 February 2006 at 03:00 AM. | 24 February 2006, 08:05 PM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | | 
..Ok..turn for me nowthanx for all ur comment..what i need support for me be better life...not to change what is in my brain..(planning) Serius judgement to me yes..all of u can say that...what u said bout someone privacy cant tell to public by their self?not..not me and hubby..we r an affair couple. Actually i didnt finished yet what i talking bout.. Here i answer u... Even if i divorce we didnt separate..we just no need such difficult paper for the next future...yes..i wish it to divorce him..But i wont tell u exactly why should i do this..ONLY wt judge i will tell. Well infact...i dont mind public know bout it...who's shame?non of us...many friends keeping gud relationship wt us without think negatively bout our divorce-stuff...they dont even wanted to talk bout it wt us. Seems pretty nice-charm looking to us. ..again Even we are really got the points /success to divrc , me and hubby not stay far..we r still together...(for our baby and familly) and we have no hate ..we want peace...not fight...everyone agree for that... I got lawyer now...i just need some info from d lawyer which is based fr ambasador de indonesie di france...and special for this marital-stuffs . I think i need be far rite now....and i will take long vacation wt hubby only 2 of us ..and knowing each-other even better...although i like being alone.... ...I am sure too, he s just jealous of my partner...just need to explaind ..and THE IMPORTANT FOR ME TO TELL YALL again...OUR DVRC NOT FOR FIGHT..WE DO BY PEACE...and we r not separate ..we want be gud- friend then a title of being "HUSBAND AND WIFE" do u know something bout divorcing in France?... people still keep their relatioship although their divoc...one of our friend did so...and i think quiet a lot of number divorced people who stil keep gud relationship even their maried again wt with other couple. d child on board stil wt us,nothing changing... i am now from paris comeback to home just to see d result of my baby-sport..she's growing now... one think in my head: EVERYTHING THE JUDGE WILL DECIDE..I DONT EVEN KNOW EITHER I AM SUCCES WT MY TRIBUNAL OR NOT...COZ DIVORCE HERE PREETY SUCH DIFFICULT...EVEN MADE ME AFRAID BEING MARIED AGAIN, EVEN DO I AM SUCCESS.
when he's got the chance ..i will ask hime to join wt us to chat here..
i think u should know why i choose this way..before judging me....its fair, hah?so doesnt looks blamming me....
Last edited by batavianlady; 24 February 2006 at 08:12 PM. | 24 February 2006, 08:17 PM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | |
Quote: | Hey......rose - batlad, why dont you go with your hubby if he have to leave you for over a month, thats what my hubby always do, if he have to leave over a month he always took us, because he also can't live without me that long . | yes..kristina..soon..soon..we will go...u l see front of ur door...we bring the rujak for u too..  ... the buah its from our garden... ...hehehehe..thanx for d advice..i respect that way... u should drink a lot of water too...ok.?!..and i waiting the next experienced fr both of u too... will tell dis to hubby... | 24 February 2006, 08:26 PM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: March 2005 Location: Norwich - UK Posts: 1,122 Rep Power: 5 | |
, please accept my apology for what i sadi before, i didn't try to judge you, who am i to judge you like that. I was only try to open up your heart a little bit, to see what the essential of the problem was because i thought you were very upsad with the divorce situation. If divorce is the only thing that can make you both happy.......why not. Ohh well forgive me if i was wrong. Good luck .................... __________________
you can tell more about a person by what he says about others, than you can by what others say about him ~Make happy those who are near, and those who are far will come
Last edited by kristina; 24 February 2006 at 08:30 PM. | 24 February 2006, 08:40 PM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | |
i assume to this thread do NOT:
* junk and OOT
* keep saying :"u know what i mean?" & "do u understand, me?".. my answer . for god shake.. i dont really know what are you "meaning" about...so plis..plis..plis..dont keep this words..
* Think something else, what i never talk bout it..i dont even write it...
* ...Thank You..You are Just Nice to HELP me.. NOT to JUDGE me.. | 24 February 2006, 08:45 PM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: March 2005 Location: Norwich - UK Posts: 1,122 Rep Power: 5 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by batavianlady i assume to this thread do NOT:
* junk and OOT
* keep saying :"u know what i mean?" & "do u understand, me?".. my answer . for god shake.. i dont really know what are you "meaning" about...so plis..plis..plis..dont keep this words..
* Think something else, what i never talk bout it..i dont even write it...
* ...Thank You..You are Just Nice to HELP me.. NOT to JUDGE me.. | Ya...ya...ya....sory...sory...sory...............1000000000x wadooh gitu ajah mau bawa golok gw tadinye mau bilang ke hubby elo begini: FOR GOD SICK, just give your lady what she wants, if you love her very much, and care about her, show it, money can't buy everything - anything. Eh elonya keburu nge - reply __________________
you can tell more about a person by what he says about others, than you can by what others say about him ~Make happy those who are near, and those who are far will come
Last edited by kristina; 24 February 2006 at 08:52 PM. | 24 February 2006, 08:47 PM | | Senior Member | | Join Date: February 2005 Location: paris, france (www.uniquerose.fr) Posts: 3,062 Rep Power: 7 | |
Quote: | Originally Posted by kristina , please accept my apology for what i sadi before, i didn't try to judge you, who am i to judge you like that. I was only try to open up your heart a little bit, to see what the essential of the problem was because i thought you were very upsad with the divorce situation. If divorce is the only thing that can make you both happy.......why not. Ohh well forgive me if i was wrong. Good luck .................... | Oh yes..yes...ofcourse..what u think i am?..i dont even know u judged me...these for everyone... well now..plase continue again any axciting things and experienced u and other couple here have..so we could share...some of ur words "touch" my heart, u see....
(gud rite..?!)
again looks one of our friend got problem too...its borneo and couple...lets we help him too....(if we can...)
(..my problem..doesnt finish here...still going on...soon i give the news....) (The way u speak, looks like my friend in France..i miss her..i should contact rite now..) | |
