Originally Posted by Syahrul_Istiqlali

Hi there, that damn things were happen in our peaceful home too. We are not in love anymore. Its kickin' butt!. But, believe it or not, we are still together until now. We did it this 7 years. We just sacrifice our ego just for our 3 kids. They deserve to have a happy unity family. Dunno if we'll get divc next 20 or 30 years later...

Originally Posted by kristina

Hahhhh!!!! still together?????? But you are not live in the same roof are you?

Originally Posted by kristina

TO BATLAD :
ck...ck....ck...ck..............
This thread finally can tickle my fingers.
Well...miss rose - batlad, is this problem genuiene of yours oryou just make it up?? no offence because foreign ppl are common with something called "privacy", most of them doesn't like to discuss about their personal problem in public.
But wether genuine or not i'd like to give comment, because this is what you want rite? you need an opinion from ppl.
Divorce is a choice, divorce is not something that God made. Human have a choice to make their own destiny, i believed.
We have somethin in common actually, our husband are both work abroad, they are very offten left us alone at home with our daughter.
Before i speak to far away...May i ask you what was the reason you were married? was it because you loved him, can't live without him - or because you were run away from a problem and you thought by marrying this guy will solve the problem.

* If your answer is that because you loved him and you can't lived without him, than why do you want a divorce? If he work over seas a lot, that is because he want to fullfill your need, your glamourity need, he want his family happy, and that is the only job that he can get (and can give him very good salary). Because living in abig city such PARIS is not cheap, specially you & famliy lived in a specious apartment, And your husband need a lot of cash to pay the morgates, and maybe need 20 years to finish off the morgates. Do you ever spoke to him about your feeling?
In my case me and my hubby have spoken about this before, we've had a big argument, that once made me want to walk out of the house. But before i managed to run away, he already on the way home (in the middle of a very important meeting with a customer). He said to me if there is anything i want to say, he'll be please to hear it, i f i want to shouting at him, he'll be please to accept it. Ohhh yeahhh...i did everything i could, i shouthed @ him , i yelled @ him, and i cried. It works........i feel relieved, if told him everything that i've been kept all this time in my head.
He said, he doesn't like his job either, he hate his job as much as i hate being apart from him. But with this job he can feed his family, give his family a decent life. He said again i have to understand that, but if i want him to quick from his job he will do it, but there is consequences of that, we have to move to a smaller house, we can't have holiday every year, we can't put our daughter in private nursery (public nursery is further away from our house), i can't turn the heater @ home all day long (which is meant we have to wearing 3 wooly jumper, 2 layers of socks..etc..etc), we can't have a satelite channel, and i have to walk to the bus station to go shopping, to take our daughter to nursery/school. Ukkkhhhh...........i can't do that.
Hey......rose - batlad, why dont you go with your hubby if he have to leave you for over a month, thats what my hubby always do, if he have to leave over a month he always took us, because he also can't live without me that long .

*If the answer is because u were run away from a problem & you thought by marrying this guy will solve the problem, well now you know - that you were wrong. If you thing you and him can't go along together ever again, JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART. That is not fun if you have to live in lie and suffer because of that. You deserve a happines in your life. You are a beautiful woman and fun as well, if there is a guy who can give you what you want GO FOR IT. But remember, don't make a same mistake, and you have to prepare your self, if this CHARMING PRINCE is not as perfect as you were imagined. NO BODY PERFECT LOVE, Don't be surprise if you will find another problem (not the same problem though - but still we call it problem). Your daughter now still very young, she wouldn't know the different, she know nothing. She wouldn't care who her biological father is (for now...) as long as her new father loved her very much, just like her own daughter.

SO...THE CHOICE IS ON YOUR HAND. IF YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU....IS THAT MEAN THAT HE LOVE YOU??? AND WANT TO WORK THIS OUT TOGHETHER??? SPEAK TO HIM...FIND THE SOLUTION...GOOD LUCK

Originally Posted by Syahrul_Istiqlali

Hi there, that damn things were happen in our peaceful home too. We are not in love anymore. Its kickin' butt!. But, believe it or not, we are still together until now. We did it this 7 years. We just sacrifice our ego just for our 3 kids. They deserve to have a happy unity family. Dunno if we'll get divc next 20 or 30 years later...

Originally Posted by batavianlady

..no one ever know..what exacttly she wants?
she=me

Originally Posted by appledream

verry good comment. i like 8... , i hope u can accept this comment my betleidi...at least u can think bout 8... !!! da decision is in ur hand.

u know sumthings..Syahrul..??i think u is da wise guy . u ve da better wife, coz both of u wanna scrfc our ego 4 urkids. i think 8s better way. we have 2 open da heart 2 see what da essensial of problem . ...n solve 8. dont ever think bout dvrc b4 u looking out da other way out dat more wise. OK

Originally Posted by batavianlady

Oh yes..yes...ofcourse..what u think i am?..i dont even know u judged me...these for everyone...
well now..plase continue again any axciting things and experienced u and other couple here have..so we could share...some of ur words "touch" my heart, u see....
(gud rite..?!)
again looks one of our friend got problem too...its borneo and couple...lets we help him too....(if we can...)
(..my problem..doesnt finish here...still going on...soon i give the news....)
(The way u speak, looks like my friend in France..i miss her..i should contact rite now..)

Originally Posted by borneo

Originally Posted by batavianlady

aduh..sumpah deh..kok gw jd gak ngerti gitu loh..apa yg kamu maksud...
h..eh..apple...tenang minum air yg cukup...duduk rapih ..pelan2, ya..
perasaan gw aja ma hubby yg ber-sangkutan tenang2 aja......serius santai oii...ini kan bukan bahan debat..
gw gak butuh nasihat..tp alangkah baiknya kalo dont judge me...kalo gw tanya ma u..knp gw mo divorce..pasti lu gak ngerti...so what gicu loh..tenang2 bae...yg ada malah bikin rumet...nah gw ma hubby gak confidence deh mo share..lg......ok...
so dah nikah kamu?anak berapa?..klg di mana?...sayang dgn pasanganmu gak?

Originally Posted by batavianlady

..yes..bung neo..if u wish to learn...u better repeat to read the posted above...sampe cape
so gimana soal masalah nya bung neo ini...dah ada keringanan?

Originally Posted by batavianlady

aduh..sumpah deh..kok gw jd gak ngerti gitu loh..apa yg kamu maksud...

eh..eh..apple...tenang minum air yg cukup...duduk rapih ..pelan2, ya..
perasaan gw aja ma hubby yg ber-sangkutan tenang2 aja......serius santai oii...ini kan bukan bahan debat..
gw gak butuh nasihat..tp alangkah baiknya kalo dont judge me...kalo gw tanya ma u..knp gw mo divorce..pasti lu gak ngerti...so what gicu loh..tenang2 bae...yg ada malah bikin rumet...nah gw ma hubby gak confidence deh mo share..lg......ok...
so dah nikah kamu?anak berapa?..klg di mana?...sayang dgn pasanganmu gak?

Originally Posted by borneo

hmm.... hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Originally Posted by borneo

Originally Posted by kristina

Nyindir nih yeeee, masalahnya refooot mau konsentrasi kalau ada anak di sekitar kita
Yaahhh jujur saja, apalagi bahasa inggris merupakan bahasa ketiga bagiku, bahasa ibu aku pake bahasa jawa, bahasa bangku sekolah bahasa indonesia, bahasa ama suami bahas inggris dan aku harus menggunakannya sehari-hari , yaahh diharap maklum deeehhhh....

Originally Posted by borneo

wehehehe.. Avatarnya keren. Anak mba Kristina cuantieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk... bangaddddddddddddddddddd.. Muaniezzzz.... eeeeeee